Sunday, May 29, 2011
Bored and Unmotivated
I spend most of my days trying to surround myself with other people, pick up as many hours at work as possible, and doing other chores that I feel need to be done. I absolutley hate being alone. The reason for this is that I have no real passions. I do a couple things for entertainment. For example I love to play baseketball, guitar and wiffleball. I only enjoy doing these things when I am with people. When I first came to college I thought my biggest problem would be finding something I would want to do with the rest of my life. I no longer fear this because most of the adults I have talked to hate their job. I have come to the conclusion that no matter what job I choose, I will eventually grow to hate my job. Since a job that I will enjoy is not a goal for me I decided that my number one goal would be to have a family. This way no matter what job I end up with is not important. The only thing that matters that it can support my familiy. That being said who would want to marry a guy who has no passions for anything other than having a wife. After a short time with living with me my wife will probably be very bored with our conversations. This will most likely lead to divorce, so now I have been trying all sorts of new things to do while I am alone. Does anyone else find leisure hours the least enjoyable part of their week?
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I completely understand what you're saying! Now that its summertime and all my friends have moved home for the summer I sit idly everyday trying to distract myself from the fact that I am alone. Get this, today I did nearly all the homework I had due for this week while trying to entertain myself by watching some british show about traveling gypsies, I think I would like to become one. You should come hang out with me sometime and we can waste away our day complaining about how terrible it is to be alone.
ReplyDeletebeing alone sucks, period. The summer has barely begun and I already find myself becoming bored and alone. However, I do enjoy my alone time....only in small doses. This weekend my roommate went out of town and I thought I was going to go crazy! All of my friends are either slaving away in summer school, or carrying on with the daily lives that obviously no longer include me. I think the fact that your goal in life is to have a family is the best possible goal you could have. And trust me, you and wife will have plenty of things to talk about. Something new happens everyday.
ReplyDeleteAl,
ReplyDeleteI tend to be alone a lot as well during the week, especially now that its summertime and many of my friends have moved away. My roommate moved out last December so I also live alone. I disagree with you and don’t think must adults hate their jobs. I found your b log to be somewhat depressing. If you hate being alone wouldn’t you be more motivated to get a job that you love so that way you could be around people constantly? I love having time to myself because during this time I am my own boss. No homework to do, no rules and regulations to abide by, or time limits when making plans…just simply going with the flow.
Hey man,
ReplyDeleteThat's cool that you are getting committed to family life. I feel like a lot of the time people focus on careers and overlook the stuff that will keep you happy, like a family. It does sound like you need to appreciate the down time a little more. Like Lydia said, you're your own boss then. I love down time, but I'm also pretty lazy, so that might be why I like it so much.
Al, being alone is hard. It's funny I would admit this because I have always been that kind of person who usually enjoys or at the least doesn't mind those times where I am in complete solitude. At some point, I think everyone needs that kind of time to oneself to reflect, think or simply just relax. However, there have been moments where I found myself not wanting to be alone and go through my contacts hitting up numerous people to see who responds and would want to do something. I usually feel like this when I'm going through a lot, depressed or just got of a 'situation' with a significant other. So I completely understand wanting to be around people and not being idle and alone. And don't sell yourself short, with the activities you like to do I'm pretty sure you are not a boring character. You’re probably a blast to be around :)
ReplyDeleteI know what you mean. Being alone is no fun! I know that it's hard because a lot of people have gone home for the summer, but I'm sure if you get out and do stuff you will find things to do and meet new people=). It's funny how I work all the time, and am taking classes, so I am constantly surrounded by people yet I still feel alone. It's weird to me how we can be around 20 people and still have that feeling. Keep your chin up, I'm sure you will find something to do! We do live in Wilmington;)
ReplyDeleteDon't get so down, once you find something you truly enjoy no matter what, you'll realize it wasn't that hard. Then again, I haven't exactly found stuff to be passionate about for more than about an hour at a time. Being bored and unmotivated I think is a summertime thing. There's about 10% as many people here as there usually are so there's less things to do, less people to see, and less to be excited about. Most things are more fun with people, I mean humans are like the most social animals that exist! It sucks when you're alone in an empty apartment, but that's when the random ideas to go read a book or go for a run or do something you haven't done before happen. Hobbies are just hobbies, though, so I'm sure when you're doing stuff with people you'll eventually run into something you enjoy to do alone as well! And finally, I'm sure divorce is not so inevitable...I mean if you're always hanging out with people then people have got to like hanging out with you too for a reason.
ReplyDeleteIf all else fails, being a beach bum and tanning/napping/doing whatever there alone is still pretty fun in my opinion :) lol